As a young adult, everything is always changing. Nothing lasts forever at this age. We make friends and drift apart. Friends graduate and move away. Friends you were once so close with just randomly decide to never reply to your texts again. Changes suck. But sometimes we can’t control them, but what we can do is prepare ourselves and start to move on if we know it’s coming.
I’ve been thinking a lot about how a huge chunk of my friends are graduating college in April. I still have a year to go. There’s a newsroom at our school where all the journalism students do their work. I always go there to do my work and I usually see my friends there too. It’s going to suck to not see them there any more. I love interacting with them while doing my work. Such a cozy feeling and I’m most comfortable with them in there than with anyone anywhere else in the school. Not only that, it’s just routine too. So what am I going to do?
There’s nothing I can do. I have to accept that this is apart of my life that is going to change. But it’s a normal change, it’s just what people do. It’s obviously not something that is going to last forever. Since I know this change is coming, I can prepare myself. How you might ask?
1. Meet new friends – This does not mean that I’m replacing my friends. I have met amazing new friends who are first years like me. I try my hardest to get comfortable around everyone in first year so when the time comes and my friends graduate, I know that I’m not alone and that I have a great group of friends with me.
2. Do my own thing – Nowadays when i’m in the newsroom, I pay attention to me and my work and not the people around me. I focus on my tasks and goals, instead of what’s going on around me. If my friends are not in the newsroom, I still go in and work. If they leave, I don’t leave with them if i’m already doing something. I obviously interact with them but they’re not my top priority.
I’m not going to be a student forever either. Next year, it’s going to be my turn to graduate! Help! Then I’ll get my first job. There’s no way I can prepare for that. My title as a “student” will be gone. Am I excited? Hell yes! Do I want to leave my comfort zone? Hell no. But I have to prepare myself because I know it’s coming.
I’m excited to get older though. I’m excited to get a job and possibly have kids. When people get older, things become more permanent. There will be a point in life when you settle down and you will have a choice for certain things to either change or last forever. I might have the same, amazing job my whole life or a new job every couple years. Who knows? And if I ever have kids, that love will definitely last forever.
Stay strong lovelies <3